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i just dont feel pretty i mean people always tell me i am pretty yet i just dont feel it i suffer from depression and just ha 8 month old twins i want to feel sexy yet its so hard when i compare myself to all the beautiful women in t.v. and magazines i feel like i just cant even add up let alone compare does anyone have any suggestions for something i could do to make me feel better im not overweight just have a little belly from the pregnancy yet itas going away have shoulder length hair and my skin is okay i just want to look 100% at all times please help

Just had to ask for help?

You need a dose of reality here, and I'll give it to you. Read on:

Your suffering from something that many women experience. You compare yourself to what you see in the media, and feel you can't compare to it all. And the terrible thing about it is, your right. And I'll tell you why: because your competing against FAKE images. Thats right, all the pictures in the magazines and on covers are all digitally retouched and computer enhanced to look the way they do.

But since my just telling you probably won't make you feel any better, I've included some links that prove what I'm saying. I've There's also a link with some celebrities without makeup to show you that they aren't any different than anybody else. If these first links don't change your whole perspective on what you see in magazines, the last one will. You will realize that the pics you see in magazines that seem so beautiful are nothing more than airbrushing and computer generated hocus-pocus. I hope this makes you feel better!

http://www.thatvideosite.com/video/3964

http://www.thatvideosite.com/video/3456

http://www.ebaumsworld.com/celeb.html

http://www.beautyden.com/news/photo-reto...

http://homepage.mac.com/gapodaca/digital...

And last but not least, a whole article chock full of links that you can go to that have many examples of how magazine photos are retouched.

http://www.diet-blog.com/archives/2006/0...

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First of babe, Please dont compare yourself to those ditzy "perfect" blondes on TV - it is a very very unrealistic portrayal of what they are actually like, im sure if you had 3 makeup artists, work on you for upwards of 3 hours you would look just as perfect as them, ever seen celebs without there make-up on? not a pretty sight - the worst thing you can do is compare yourself to them.

One thing im learning to do is To be happy with myself, and love who i am, to feel not only confident withmyself but also Happy with who i am - Everyone has days where they look at themselves in the mirror - and go crap i look bad today, but you have to tell yourself, well hey this is who i am

The only person your going to be with for the rest of your life and be stuck with - IS YOU! so its better sooner then later to get along with yourself, and start to feel happy about who YOU ARE!, i dont know you personally but im sure that you have alot of things in your life to feel proud of (like your 8 month old twins), its just about accepting yourself, you can take all the anti-depressents you want, but its a psychological change you have to make within yourself, to wake up one day, and get angry, say to yourself, You know what? im not going to deny myself of happiness, i have alot to live for, i have things to OFFER, im a beautiful person, you have to make the change from within yourself,

Make the decision - dont deny yourself of living your life and feeling down, you are worth it! and you certainly have alot to offer!,

You can of course talk to Psychologist which could help you, to get to why you feel the way you do about yourself, to pin-point what it is that is making you feel the way you do about yourself, but really - its somthing that you can work out foryourself, if you feel you have a little bit of fat around your belly, then do somthing about it - go to the gym, do things that make you feel better about yourself - if its eating a bit of chocolate or somthing, then do it

We only Live once, you have a RIGHT to happiness, dont deny yourself

I Wish you luck - take care

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why are you comparing yourself to the women you see on t.v.?

they dont look like that all the time, its all the makeup and other crap they put on so people think they look that way

lots of women get depressed after having a baby so your not alone out there.

I'm sure you are pretty but if you still think you are not then do little things to make yourself feel better

dress up for yourself, take bubble baths - go otu and buy yourself some flowers anything to keep yourself upbeat and thinking positive.

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I have the same problem that you do. I am always comparing myself to somebody else. Then i started thinking about this and i realized that when i am much older that beauty will not matter anymore so i started to think that i would rather be more focased on my health because that is something that is going to be around hopefully long after my beauty fades. Everybody goes threw this, even the people you think are the most beautiful of women. Have a wonderful day=)