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I met my husband in 1oth greade in highschool and we have been married 15 years now. He is an awesome man who workks come rain or shine. But I guess its that Im feeling like I dont even matter to him anymore. He comes home all sweaty and sexy and I try pouncing him at ther door naked and its " geeze can I get my clothes off? Well I was trying to help him with that problem when I got yelled out. I spent 3 hrs doing my hair and makeup on just right and each time it breaks my heart in a million peices when he doesnt even notice. What am I doing wrong? I make his favorite foods and its on the table when he walks in the door. I run his shower so itssteaming hot and he even gets a hot towel right from the dryer when he comes out/ all his clothes r out for the nmext day anmd always lesves with a hot brealkfasdt in his tummy/ I mean I know he is working extra long hard hours, but damn it guys what about me? I need a friend-him too ya know! I have a right to want some affection dont

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all i can say is WOW........my wife used to that as well, and i guess i got used to having the perfect little woman around, and then she just stopped.......and i do mean everything........she was hurt and she felt like she had been betrayed, so it took me a few months to really see what a wonderful lady i have. leave him a little note on the bed or in a plastic bag in the shower where he will see it, explaining what you feel and why you feel that way. some men, including myself...sorry to say that.........forget why we married such wonderful women, and come to expect everything, and forget about the little things.......don't ever think there is something wrong with you, because you are a very beautiful person for even being there.......don't give up on him, he's a guy, and we do some of the dumbest things anyone could think of doing.......but yeah, try the note thing i suggested. oh , and yes, my marriage is still going strong, i just had to re-learn why i fell in love.........take care and i wish you all that is good

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sounds like he's bored and too stressed from work... maybe you shouldn't try so hard... just act like you don't care and see what happens...

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Sorry for your troubles, but do NOT go to another man for this affection. Just saying. Try talking to him. You didn't say that you guys actually talked about it. Just sit him down, and spill your feelings. If that doesn't work, sorry.

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he is a lucky man!!! u really do all that? u spoiled him too much!

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I think you need to sit down with him and tell him how your feeling.

Yes you do have a right to want some affection. But maybe because he's working so much the stress from work is taking it's toll on his sex drive. If he's stressed, it can kill a sex drive.

It sounds like your a very loving wife. My suggestion would be to talk with him about it and share your frustrations with him.

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Yes, you do have a right to some affection, and it looks like you're going above and beyond for your man. Maybe that's part of the problem. Maybe he's grown accustomed to your service and is taking it for granted. I would suggest switching gears and not waiting on him hand and foot. When he notices and asks what the deal is, just tell him he doesn't seem to appreciate the effort you put into meeting his needs, so he can meet his own needs for a while and see how he likes it.

On the other hand, he may be very tired when he gets home from working so hard and for such long hours and would like some time to catch a breath. Maybe you should ask what he wants when he gets home. When he winds down and is feeling relaxed, he may be more able to show you some affection. Either way, you need to switch gears because, clearly, what you're doing (which is a lot) isn't getting the desired results.

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I am not a man but I am married. Quit spoiling him. He is a grown man who can run his own shower, use a cold towel and even make his own dinner. He needs to grow up and you need to let him. After he takes care of himself for a while he will appreciate when you do it. For the rude behavior when you try to get "close" to him. Just ignore him, if he thinks you don't want it he will start freakin. I hope it gets better for you :)

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Well, I started out thinking you were doing all the right things, but then as I read on and on I see that you are coodling him too much. Geeze, hoovering might be a better term. Babying maybe. Sure I like dinner to be ready but it does not have to be on the table. Hot towel from the dryer? You a wife or a butler. He is spoiled rotten and acting like it.

You are right asking for some attention and friendship, but he gets handed everything he needs, so he doesn't have to work at anything and it shows. He's takes you for granted. I'd start cutting back on the service aspect. Let him come home and do what ever he needs to do to unwind and assimilate to home life. have dinner ready, but make him ask for it. Don't do the shower/towel thing, that is pathetic. Don't put his clothes out, that is way to mothery. Eww, makes me shiver just thinking about my wife treating me like this.

Now, two things might happen. He might ask why the change in attitude and you can expalin to him how you feel ignored and need more one on one time. The sex will come naturally if you make it past this stage.

Or, he might not give a crap and keep ignoring you, then you know he really is a looser and you can leave him without looking back.

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Maybe you should stop trying to hard. Sounds like he comes home dirty, tired and worn out. Try to take him out on the days off. Go to his favorite places---movie, dancing whatever he is into. But don't jump into anthers arms just for affection. My wife say make a movie telling him how you feel and let him watch alone. Don't pressure him after wards. Let him come to you to talk about it. Good luck and I will pray for you.

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you need to give him a little bit of space when he first gets home from work. he needs a little time to unwind and transition from work life to home life.

try that for a few days. if you don't notice a difference TALK to HIM about it.

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He is a damn fool,,,,,, I would give anything for you as a wife..... an if your naked, you are never in trouble.....never. You are definately not in Los Angeles. These women expect everything and give nothing.

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my wife has the same problem but if we are working hard and long hours its for you the work stresseses us so much that we just want to go to sleep but that doesnt mean we dont love you or care for you . its better you suggest him to take vications for some days

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Yes, you do have the right to some affection, but he also has the right to not need to come home and perform on demand. And about the hair and makeup... my wife is simply put the most beutiful woman on the planet, with or without makup. Is it any wonder I don't notice that she's "just a little more beutiful" when she puts on makup? Really, it's like asking me to notice that the sun was just a little bit brighter today. I still can't look stright into it! It's still brighter than any other light arround! Same with my wife... she's still the most beutiful thing around... how am I really supposed to keep track when she's "extra beutiful"?

OK, tackling him right as he comes in the door works for some guys, not for others, but for most of us it works only when things are going well at work. Does he love his job? No, I mean *really* love... like, is he desparate to get to work? No? Then back up a little as he comes in the door. You say he works long hours, that's good! It also means that he's TIRED at the end of the day.

Try a new tactic! Instead of tackling him naked at the door, have a drink in hand. When he sits down to take off his boots, hand him the drink and say, "Let me take care of that, honey." Then, while you take them off, ask, "How was work?"

Take off his boots, then his socks as he talks. Sometimes (you don't need make it a regular event or it can start to get taken for granted) have a bucket ready and wash his feet as he finishes talking to you. Then tell him about your day. When he's talking, actively listen and respond to what he says. Encourage him to do the same when you're talking.

On occasion, you can take it a little further even: instead of having water ready to wash his feet, start taking off his cloths as he talks. If he asks what you're doing, just say, "I'm listening to you. Keep going. What was that you were saying about..." make it specific. When you've got him naked and he's done talking about his day, then you strip while you talk about yours. Then... well, I'll assume you can figure out the rest. Or you can email me, I think if I go any further I'll get reported for abuse.

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Personally, I think you're trying too hard. Ever notice how a guy only wants what he has to chase down? (caveman mentality) You are sitting there like an eager little puppy ready to lick the crumbs off his face. Back off!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Give him some space. Maybe when he sees you're kind of drifting off, he'll be like....what the.!?!?!?! and he'll come around.

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Love for Sex. Sex for love. Sometimes its not just about sex. What is a marriage ? It is a Union of 2 souls. Of 2 hearts becoming one. or has become one. Of 2 minds being one. Of 2 souls being one. In this particular instance there must be something bothering him that he has not worked out in this particular phase of his and yours lifecycle. What then is a wife ? A wife is the physical expression of the Man's intuitive self. Eve was taken out of Adam when he was in a deep sleep. What is deep sleep ? But a deep state of consiousness. Eve was taken out of Adam in that state. She is the ultimate helpmeet to protect him against himself. Eve or wife is but the physical manifestation of the man's inner state of consiousness. It became physical so that man wont be lost. Be his soul mate.

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no excuse from me on this one. I too started to neglect my wife after our 10 years of marriage. I was so driven to work hard and get all the stuff I thought we needed and i was very wrong. It took me some time to realize that the best things in life are not things..

If what you say is true and he doesn't pay you the affection you need, then you really need to get some counseling, that worked for me. If my wife met me at the door naked and all dolled up I'd be naked in a nano second..

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I took the time to read other peoples responces and some are spot on.

You need to sit and talk to him. Do NOT blame him. But do tell him that he is your life and you need him.

Ask him if there is anything he'd like to explore. Tell him some things you want to try.

But make sure he knows that you are his, and he needs to take care of you. Men usually like ownership and responsability of their toys....

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I like what "jeffreyheaps" said.

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I have talked to you a lot and have a picture of you and I dont understand him at all.Did this problem start after your promotion? Do you make more money than him.That bothers some men.Not this gie,Email me if you want to talk further.Anyway glad to see you here on answers and Good Luck with hubby.I wish the best for you.

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sounds like he's taking full advantage of you....stop doing for him and do for yourself. maybe he sees you more as a mother than a wife.

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whats going on here everyone telling you to stop doing for your husband...My God we are supposed to do for our spouse..Freely and without expectation..Thats true love.. Did it ever occur to you that he is going thru something really personell to him and that maybe just maybe he really is just working to hard. I am not imune to working to hard out of desire to provide for my family and become tired. Sometimes we as people just need a rest. And yes I agree talk to him. Do not go to another man. Big mistake to make and will cause more grief than its worth. Write him a letter and give it to him in the morning. This way he can think of that letter with your feelings all day. Good luck

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After 15 years, I'm guessing that he's just tired and sees nothing new. Or maybe you've put on too much weight and he's just not attracted to you anymore.

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It sounds to me like he is over worked and tired he just wants to rest. Suggest he take some time off so you and him can go on a romantic getaway because you have been feeling unappreciated and neglected for all that you do around the house for him. I'm sorry but if you do all that I would be willing to jump your bones

even if I was coming home dead tired just to show you how much I appreciate all that you do. You sound very nice and caring

I hope you can tell your hubby that you just miss having the quality time together and that you need his man-hood once in awhile and just to be noticed by him.